[A Short] You Probably Don’t Need to “Date Yourself”
You know what dating advice I think sucks? “Work on yourself,” “You need to love yourself first,” “Date yourself.”
If you’re in your late 20’s or 30’s (or later), manage to pay your rent or mortgage, and a have a few friends, you’re probably good enough to date. AS IS. Period.
Sure, there’s a benefit to working on yourself, single or not, but you can continue to self-improve WHILE dating. You can simultaneously have room for improvement AND still be a great person to date.
There is no magical day when you are self-evolved enough to meet someone or to be in a relationship. If you feel like meeting a potential mate, clear off your Wednesday nights (don’t go giving your weekends away to first dates ;)) and go on some dates. If you don’t feel like it, don’t. It’s as simple and as complicated as that.
If this post feels like deja vu, you probably follow me on Instagram. I posted this a while ago as I was starting to date again. I got a number of messages about it from people sharing their own experiences so thought I’d post here as well.
